There comes a time when shock is a word that’s just not appropriate enough to describe the feeling when a horrible revelation is made known to you. Something that’s been taking place right under your nose and all of a sudden it’s brought to your attention not by an email or a text message or even from a friend. It comes knocking at your door in the form of a uniformed police officer informing you that your daughter is dead.
From that point on everything that’s said comes across like the teacher speaking in the Charlie Brown cartoon, blah, blah….blah, blah, blah… The officer informs you she was apparently killed in a domestic violence incident involving her boyfriend. The forthcoming details begin to pale in comparison to the screams of agony now coming from her Mother and you as her Father can only stand there frozen in a mixture of emotions from sadness to grieving, anger to disappointment. If I only knew she was being abused is the thought rolling over and over in your mind…
Too many families find out all too late of a family member who was being abused by a husband, a boyfriend or even a work colleague.
Domestic violence often plays out in the workplace. For instance, a husband, wife, girlfriend, or boyfriend might make threatening phone calls to their intimate partner or ex-partner. Or the worker may show injuries from physical abuse at home.
If you witness a cluster of the following warning signs in the workplace, you can reasonably suspect domestic abuse:
Bruises and other signs of impact on the skin, with the excuse of “accidents”
Frequent and sudden absences
Frequent, harassing phone calls to the person while they are at work
Fear of the partner, references to the partner’s anger
Decreased productivity and attentiveness
Isolation from friends and family
Insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car)
Know the warning signs and learn to recognise all red flags of abusive behavior upon a potential victim. Never be to apprehensive to question nor too proud to believe it can’t happen to your loved one.
The worst feeling in the world is attending a funeral with an open casket of a loved one, when a timely intervention could have saved their life and brought to light that which was hidden.
Music: “Believe In God…” MEDITATIONS CD