Although they procreated the black male bodies that were economically and physically exploited by slavery, the continued marginalisation of Black women remains insidious by way of domestic violence today, as much it did through Slavery, Reconstruction and Jim Crow beginning in this nation over four hundred years ago.
To be marginalized means to determine either an individual or a group as insignificant and subsequently treat them a outsiders. Domestic violence related homicide is the leading cause of death for African-American women from 15 to 45. Black women comprise 8 percent of the population, but accounted for 29 percent of all female victims of intimate partner violence. Among women killed by their partner, almost half were killed while in the process of leaving the relationship, highlighting the need to take extra precautions at that time.
As horrific as these statistics are, it may still be inaccurate as many homicides go under reported for a multitude of reasons.
For example, abuse is often not reported due to mistrust between the African-American community and law enforcement. Abuse victims of Black male breadwinners of the household rarely if ever report the abuse and as such have to deal with a complex form of rigid black male masculinity. Black female prostitutes are too often written off and assumed killed by profession related incidents and never from domestic violence.
Interpersonal abuse dynamics with Black couples are not much different than others, just too often lacking the professional therapeutic resources that may be available in other communities, i,e., professional counselling, women shelters, support groups, etc;.
For men, there are many anger management techniques you can employ to heal your attitudes and methodically change yourself from being a potential abuser to a man who is well loved and respected. Take the following simple steps as a preventive action in order to keep your anger in check:
- Defuse anger and possible conflict by taking a healthy walk before an argument begins with your wife/intimate partner.
- Embrace healthy and positive confrontation, but always with a respectful tone of voice.
- Never repress or stuff your feelings.
- Work on your self-worth by way of a productive hobby, pursuing additional education courses or through physical fitness and exercising.
- Mentally practice seeing yourself always in peace and actively pursue it. Taking time to meditate and nurture spirituality offsets tendencies of violent behavior.
There are many more creative and productive ways for us as men to practice a non-violent lifestyle. These 5 options open the possibility for you to change by challenging daily negative habits with new principles of behavior.
Black women cannot afford to be marginalised and Black men cannot provide free tickets by way of abusing them to this unwanted event. When one tries the failed attempt to name one historical Black male or female leader/role model that was not birthed by a woman, the irrefutable logic to protect and defend Black women and not destroy them becomes crystal clear.
As Black men, we must seek to creatively devise ways of protecting Black women by collectively think-tanking new strategies and tactics to counteract domestic abuse. We must galvanise and comprise a visible and formidable force to challenge those Black men who abuse Black women on a daily basis.
Lastly, we as Black men must realise no external efforts to breach and destroy our communities can succeed without an internal concession by us to allow it to happen.
Our beautiful Black women are not some invisible statistical thing to be abused, neglected and marginalised. They are a creative and incomparable gift from God to be spiritually prayed for, physically protected, emotionally valued and highly prized for their invaluable worth to us as Black men, to our children and to the world.
Music: “Africa…” by Russel Blake