Over two thousand years ago the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ has sustained and fed the church, meaning the body of Christ. It has given salvation and provision of mankind for everyone who believes is not saved from the wickedness of who they used to be in the world. Jesus through His love and salvation demonstrates a love of protection that can only be equivalent to highly valuing each of our lives beyond our understanding. We need only to follow him and he will cherish us for all eternity.
This highest form of love is not weakened by a wrongful perception of a strong man. Which quite often in this world being a strong man is wrongly defined as possessing an arsenal of guns, committing violence against your wife, spending time in prison and every other form of machismo portrayed on the movie screen.
The fact is the strongest man who walked the earth practiced the highest form of love that is humanly possible and divinely ordained. It was done for the sake of protecting us both from the world we see, the world we don’t see and most importantly from the consequences of investing in negative energy.
When we accept the love of Christ through being born again, we begin to learn how to love ourselves and our flesh, and not in a way of lust as that word flesh is now commercially used and conventionally understood, but in the biblical sense of our uniquely sensitive yet durable skin covering of the soul.
After being saved by Christ I slowly began to learn how to love my flesh again through organic dieting, regular exercise and developing a disciplined and healthy sleep regimen.
In the eyes of God, once man and woman have made the marital covenant, and he is to love and protect her beyond all things because they are now made whole of one spiritual flesh. “Have you not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder ~ Matthew 19: 4,5,6…”
It was a very interesting dynamic for me to witness. Generally, as domestic violence goes, the vast number of cases I see are abuse upon women by men. I witnessed the reverse today in how the verbal abuse from a woman to a man was just as cruel, damaging and long lasting to the mind and soul of the victim.
In one of my professional roles, I am a Personal Fitness Trainer. One of my clients had to cancel a booked session last week at the last minute. As per my contract, a cancellation fee is applied if you cancel less than 24 hours of the time booked.
I went to pickup that fee today and as I drove up to the home, I could hear a raised voice coming from the window. The words were profane, weaponized and intent to inflict the greatest amount of harm without spilling one drop of blood.
My client in seeing me through the window walking to the door, said he would meet me outside. In other words, don’t come in here. His girlfriend took one look at me and was crude, rude and filled with a nasty demonic attitude.
My friend came out to meet me and quickly apologized. He informed me this is why he has just plunked down six figures to buy his own condo and to get as far away from her as possible. His eyes were sunken in and he looked demoralized.
I encouraged him to know his choice to leave was the wisest move he could make. Although he was obviously embarrassed to have me to witness his latest verbal bashing at the mouth of his girlfriend, I told him there is absolutely nothing for him to be ashamed of.
I made him understand I would have been ashamed of him if he, in turn, raised a hand to her to physically retaliate, but instead it took much more courage for him to have the wisdom to pack up his belongings and to walk away. Only a coward of a man in his ignorance would strike a woman in retaliation.
Masculinity is not defined by how much more physically stronger a man is to a woman. It is measured by the internal scale of a man to weigh his character, his strengths and his confidence in knowing his worth. That is what true masculinity is all about.
I pray for her deliverance in finding what demons haunt and possess her mind and soul and casting them out in the name of Christ Jesus. I pray his opportunity to nurture forgiveness and pray for her. At one point there must have been love between them, which means there is always hope for reconciliation. Whether a man to a woman or a woman to a man, abuse is abuse and it is ugly, but two heads on one pillow can overcome anything.
“Christian men are more likely to assault their wives…” This would be a quaint oxymoron were it not factual and the facts state that there is nothing quaint, cute or humorous about domestic violence.
How can a man claim to be a follower of Jesus Christ, the greatest iconic figure of love the world has ever known, while at the same time harbor within his soul a demonic influence in stark contradiction to that love?
Religion is defined as the pursuit of a particular system of beliefs and worship. Spiritual is defined as having a relationship based on a profound level of mental and emotional communion with God.
In other words, those men practicing the latter love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself for it. He loves his wife as he loves himself and the two are one flesh and no man ever yet hated his own flesh. I contend that any man who calls and defines himself as a religious Christian yet verbally and physically assaults his wife on a daily basis subverts and undermines the Word of God.
I contend his definition of religion gives him an idea of the relationship between God and Man, yet he’s not practiced its fullness of demonstrating an understanding of the true meaning of love between a man and his wife/intimate partner. If a man claims to be Christian and is abusing his wife/intimate partner, then he is practicing a false religion and only fooling himself.
What greater opportunity for a man to practice a true meaning of his spirituality than to love his wife as he loves himself.
Real repentance and courage must be the bridge by which a man goes from being a quasi-religious pimp to a full-time spiritual and anointed living Man. Let that courage become the new-found weapon that gives, teaches and edifies to a man an anointed spiritual deliverance, and forever banishes the old miserable demonic possessed wife beater.
Now is the time for the religious-batterer of women to create the greatest possibility of rediscovering the new creature of Christ that he can only become, by walking the walk he talks every Sunday.
The following excerpt is from a recent Boston Globe article on DV: “Domestic violence has turned the home front into a battlefield bloodier than the Afghanistan and Iraq Wars. Between October 2001 and June 2012, nearly 6,500 American troops were killed in Afghanistan and Iraq; during that same period, more than 11,700 women died in acts of domestic violence, according to the National Network to End Domestic Violence which also found that children are far more likely to die in their homes because of domestic violence than in school shootings…”
The fact that double the number-of-American women (of all races, creeds, and ethnicities) were killed in this country through domestic violence than the combined number of American soldiers killed in two wars to me is alarming. It indicates the real war for the sake of humanity is not the clash of cultures between east and west, but rather between the moral and immoral treatment of women.
For 11,700 women to be killed through domestic violence means that it took 11,700 men who de-evolved from being men grappling with anger management issues, low self-esteem, inner insecurities and cowardly instincts to now become murderers, and a large percentage of those murderers don’t have the courage to face the consequences so they kill themselves after killing their victim.
This is not the time to merely observe, sit back and say this is a shame and a scourge on society. It is a collective responsibility every man must undertake to avoid complicity through omission and indifference. Every man has the responsibility to speak up and speak out about this. Don’t just leave it sports stars, corporations and politicians to do it alone.
Don’t affirmatively join in conversations with other men that brag about beating women. Don’t condone your brother, your son, your cousin, your nephew or any other male relative who beats and abuses his wife/girlfriend through silence.
Remember, men who abuse women essentially are cowards who want your approval of their negative choices. Don’t sign off, but rather sign up to make a difference. Help Stop Domestic Violence.
As the saying goes, “evil people prosper when good men do nothing…”