truthful perceptions: africa…

“African nations are failing the female population…” 

Only 21 out of 53 nations on the continent have laws against wife beating. In rural communities in Malawi, an older man of the community is appointed to be the “Village Hyena….” A term is given to a man whose responsibility is to open the door of sexuality to young girls and teenagers.

In KwaZulu Natal, South Africa young girls must undergo and pass virginal tests in order to qualify for a scholarship. In South Sudan, young girls are given to soldiers as sexual favors, which ultimately means forced rape.

These are just a few examples of an incredibly complex problem that spans ideologies, traditions, beliefs in witchcraft, corruption and decades of practices that prevent a narrow one size fits all solution. For example, there is a deep cultural belief in Nigeria that it is socially acceptable to hit and beat a woman to discipline a spouse.

Also, Nigerian women often face physical violence at the hands of their family members. The most common forms of physical violence include rape, murder, slapping, and kicking.

To challenge such deeply ingrained cultural beliefs has to begin with education in order to combat the ignorance that could frame such a practice in the first place.

When 90 percent of women polled in Guinea believe a man is justified in beating his wife (if she’s done something wrong), it illuminates the need for education on this matter. Education breeds negotiation and negotiation inspires assertiveness to combat violent behavior.

The news for the foreseeable future on the continent is not all bad. From South Africa to the Congo to Uganda, voices are now being raised to fight sexual and domestic violence against women.

Education and the literacy it induces hold the key for men and especially women to broaden their perspective to the reality of this form of violence, to embolden their opposition to it and become the lynchpin to reverse the past and change the future for the better for generations to come.

 

http://www.saartjiebaartmancentre.org.za

https://yali.state.gov/eight-ways-to-stop-violence-against-women/

https://www.wagggs.org/en/

Music ~ “AFRICA” by Russel Blake

 

 

 

 

 

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truthful perceptions: protection…

Over two thousand years ago the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ has sustained and fed the church, meaning the body of Christ. It has given salvation and provision of mankind for everyone who believes is not saved from the wickedness of who they used to be in the world. Jesus through His love and salvation demonstrates a love of protection that can only be equivalent to highly valuing each of our lives beyond our understanding. We need only to follow him and he will cherish us for all eternity.

This highest form of love is not weakened by a wrongful perception of a strong man. Which quite often in this world being a strong man is wrongly defined as possessing an arsenal of guns, committing violence against your wife, spending time in prison and every other form of machismo portrayed on the movie screen.

The fact is the strongest man who walked the earth practiced the highest form of love that is humanly possible and divinely ordained. It was done for the sake of protecting us both from the world we see, the world we don’t see and most importantly from the consequences of investing in negative energy.

When we accept the love of Christ through being born again, we begin to learn how to love ourselves and our flesh, and not in a way of lust as that word flesh is now commercially used and conventionally understood, but in the biblical sense of our uniquely sensitive yet durable skin covering of the soul.  

After being saved by Christ I slowly began to learn how to love my flesh again through organic dieting, regular exercise and developing a disciplined and healthy sleep regimen.

In the eyes of God, once man and woman have made the marital covenant, and he is to love and protect her beyond all things because they are now made whole of one spiritual flesh. “Have you not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder ~ Matthew 19: 4,5,6…”  

truthful perceptions: anything…

It was a very interesting dynamic for me to witness. Generally, as domestic violence goes, the vast number of cases I see are abuse upon women by men. I witnessed the reverse today in how the verbal abuse from a woman to a man was just as cruel, damaging and long lasting to the mind and soul of the victim.

In one of my professional roles, I am a Personal Fitness Trainer. One of my clients had to cancel a booked session last week at the last minute. As per my contract, a cancellation fee is applied if you cancel less than 24 hours of the time booked.

I went to pickup that fee today and as I drove up to the home, I could hear a raised voice coming from the window. The words were profane, weaponized and intent to inflict the greatest amount of harm without spilling one drop of blood.

My client in seeing me through the window walking to the door, said he would meet me outside. In other words, don’t come in here. His girlfriend took one look at me and was crude, rude and filled with a nasty demonic attitude.

My friend came out to meet me and quickly apologized. He informed me this is why he has just plunked down six figures to buy his own condo and to get as far away from her as possible. His eyes were sunken in and he looked demoralized.

I encouraged him to know his choice to leave was the wisest move he could make. Although he was obviously embarrassed to have me to witness his latest verbal bashing at the mouth of his girlfriend, I told him there is absolutely nothing for him to be ashamed of.

I made him understand I would have been ashamed of him if he, in turn, raised a hand to her to physically retaliate, but instead it took much more courage for him to have the wisdom to pack up his belongings and to walk away. Only a coward of a man in his ignorance would strike a woman in retaliation.

Masculinity is not defined by how much more physically stronger a man is to a woman. It is measured by the internal scale of a man to weigh his character, his strengths and his confidence in knowing his worth. That is what true masculinity is all about.

I pray for her deliverance in finding what demons haunt and possess her mind and soul and casting them out in the name of Christ Jesus. I pray his opportunity to nurture forgiveness and pray for her. At one point there must have been love between them, which means there is always hope for reconciliation. Whether a man to a woman or a woman to a man, abuse is abuse and it is ugly, but two heads on one pillow can overcome anything. 

Music: “Forgiveness…” by Russel Blake

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truthful perceptions: spiritual…

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“Christian men are more likely to assault their wives…” This would be a quaint oxymoron were it not factual and the facts state that there is nothing quaint, cute or humorous about domestic violence.

How can a man claim to be a follower of Jesus Christ, the greatest iconic figure of love the world has ever known, while at the same time harbor within his soul a demonic influence in stark contradiction to that love?

Religion is defined as the pursuit of a particular system of beliefs and worship. Spiritual is defined as having a relationship based on a profound level of mental and emotional communion with God.

In other words, those men practicing the latter love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself for it. He loves his wife as he loves himself and the two are one flesh and no man ever yet hated his own flesh. I contend that any man who calls and defines himself as a religious Christian yet verbally and physically assaults his wife on a daily basis subverts and undermines the Word of God.

I contend his definition of religion gives him an idea of the relationship between God and Man, yet he’s not practiced its fullness of demonstrating an understanding of the true meaning of love between a man and his wife/intimate partner. If a man claims to be Christian and is abusing his wife/intimate partner, then he is practicing a false religion and only fooling himself.

What greater opportunity for a man to practice a true meaning of his spirituality than to love his wife as he loves himself. 

Real repentance and courage must be the bridge by which a man goes from being a quasi-religious pimp to a full-time spiritual and anointed living Man. Let that courage become the new-found weapon that gives, teaches and edifies to a man an anointed spiritual deliverance, and forever banishes the old miserable demonic possessed wife beater. 

Now is the time for the religious-batterer of women to create the greatest possibility of rediscovering the new creature of Christ that he can only become, by walking the walk he talks every Sunday.

IJPN ~ In JESUS Precious Name.

Music ~ “Walk The Talk” by Russel Blake

truthful perceptions: virus…

A dislocated nose, busted ear drum, bruises, black eyes seem par for the course in beatings that lasted over four years for one noted survivor in Mobile County, Alabama. Her drug addicted husband had decided he was going to beat, abuse and bruise her when he was both high and not high and seemingly blaming her for both.

Had he not overdosed, her fate more likely than not would have fed the statistics of either homicide or homelessness caused by abuse. Battered women shelters now serve more children than they do women. It is estimated in some small cities in America, battered women’s shelters are more populated with children than the Children’s Hospitals in those cities.

There are so many causes of peril, sadness, disease and charity to support in this world. There truly is no excuse for us not to, other than for lack of trying. I AM aligned with three major causes. Stopping Gun Violence, The Alzheimer’s Association and Domestic Violence Awareness.

88 guns for every one hundred Americans and the insanity of needless deaths caused by them is my reason for stopping gun violence. Alzheimer’s disease ran rampant in my family taking the lives of six paternal Aunts and my maternal Grandfather. That is my reason in joining that cause.

Although there is never been an issue of domestic violence in my family, I AM motivated for just that reason. To know from experience that women are to be protected by men from the men who are true cowards for abusing them. As the bearers of our future it is critical to bring awareness and formulate solutions to the plague of domestic violence. In my mind there is no greater threat to civilized society than to ignore the virus of genocide domestic abuse produces.

Find A Domestic Violence Shelter By Zip Code:

https://www.domesticshelters.org

 

 

 

 

 

 

truthful perceptions: aid…

A leader is a person who takes action to better the lives of those under his/her influence. He takes the necessary time to reflect on those things essential to the quality of life of each and every individual. This should naturally lead him to utilise a variety of sources of power to employ compassion and apply the resources necessary to achieve harmony within the nation.

Sadly, the current president we have in the white house does not represent these values as a leader and based on his history with women is factually devoid and woefully impotent of them. By signing off on a draconian budget removing the legal resources that help aid victims of domestic violence, he shows the world his real character when it comes to protecting the women and children of this country.

Helping domestic violence survivors have access to legal protection would seem a no-brainer for obvious reasons, especially an organization like the Legal Services Corporation that provides this type of assistance to domestic violence victims and survivors in virtually every state. President trump is planning to defund the entire organization. All Americans truly interested in fighting back against this travesty should flood the telephone lines of their representatives in congress and the senate.

Raise holy hell on behalf of low-income victims of domestic violence who endure hell each and everyday and need all of the free legal assistance available. Let’s not simply sigh, moan and complain. Let’s stand up for victims and survivors, take action and fight!

https://theintercept.com/2017/03/20/donald-trump-plans-to-eliminate-legal-aid-funding-that-supports-survivors-of-domestic-violence/

Find Your Representative:  http://www.house.gov/representatives/find/

 

 

 

 

 

 

truthful perceptions: gratitude…

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There are a million bits and pieces of information that make up the experiences of a Man’s life. Most are often forgotten in the blink of an eye. Others are much more traumatic, joyful, significant and mournful to the memories held on to for a lifetime.

The balance of equity for most men of integrity regardless of race, religious belief system or background is to practice either by the minute, the hour, the day or even once a week is a time of reflection to be thankful.

It costs nothing and yet yields the biggest personal returns. This is a character trait most promising to know that a poor man is made rich by it, and a rich man is made poor without it.

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It grounds you in ways to keep you safe from the arrogance of the batterer mindset. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a Pastor or a Police Officer, the arrogant mindset of the physical batterer and verbal abuser remain the same.

One of thinking he is untouchable by virtue of his vocation and somehow immune from any conviction of conscience because it is both neutralized and patronized by his service to the community.

That somehow his livelihood qualifies him to live a secretive lifestyle free of condemnation in beating his wife/intimate partner. Nothing could be further from the truth for we know the universal law speaks to the heart of the matter: “To whom much is given, much is required.”

So on this Thanksgiving Day, may we as men take the time to truly search our hearts for any level of abusive behavior we have towards our wife/intimate partner, and begin the changing process with the best weapon of all, gratitude…

MUSIC: It’s This Place…” by Russel Blake.

 

truthful perception: grandchildren…

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As Men, we can find no greater responsibility in life than being a parent to our children. Much too often we tend to minimize our impact on their thinking and the subsequent attitudes they carry throughout their lives. We much too often underestimate how much we dynamically impart upon them by our daily speech, behavior, work ethic and religious beliefs to what type of Man or Woman they will eventually grow into.

Of course peer pressure and other societal factors will influence them, but for the most part while they are in the most impressionable stages of life, we as their Father’s play a most significant role in how they will interpret masculinity.

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A power relay is a type of conduit that can handle the high power required to directly control an electric motor or other loads is called a contactor. Look at this comparison:

Our children are a type of conduit that handles the high intensity of abusive drama in the home and quite often directly cope with the trauma of these events through emotional scarring and suppression. In most cases, over a period of time this suppression will emerge to rear itself in multiple ways.

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In girls, it could ironically manifest in seeking a mate with the same personality characteristics of the man who abused her Mom. In boys, it obviously manifest in being the same type of abusive man he witnessed in his Dad.

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The bottom line. We must fully take the time to fully comprehend the masculine power we wield and our responsibility to use it wisely. When used foolishly and abusively, it is sufficient to negatively influence and continue another generation of pain and suffering through our children and our grandchildren.

MUSIC: AHIMSA by Russel Blake

 

 

truthful perceptions: times…

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Are you a Man or a Mannequin? Real men exemplify the substance of integrity abiding inside of them. Fake men are like the mannequins in a store.

Dressed fashionably well to attract others towards them, and yet cold to the touch and hollow on the inside from a lack of moral substance.

Real men clothed themselves with the vest of integrity each and everyday. Fake/abusive men don’t even realize how naked they are before the world regardless to how expensive their clothes are.  

Real men court, date, become engaged to and marry integrity for a lifetime. Fake/abusive men have already divorced themselves from the possibility of even knowing who she is.

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You can never step up as a Man, if you’re knocking down a Woman. You can never improve yourself as a Man, if you’re verbally abusing a Woman. You can never better yourself as a person and advance inspirational thoughts in others, by destroying the life of a Woman.

Integrity is a lifestyle, not a choice. It is not a demand, but a dialect of human language invisibly spoken in the form of a selfless love and respect for all life, especially the life of your wife/intimate partner. Most men have integrity genetically encoded in their DNA and will absolutely protect and defend all life. They never abuse women and behave as a moral leader in their home, at the workplace and most importantly when no one is watching.

Men of integrity behave this way at all times… 

truthful perceptions: begin…

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The best gift any Man can give to a Woman in this day and age is honesty. This can only be done by first being honest with our very own self. To daily evaluate our emotions, thoughts and experiences about the Women in our lives and to do it honestly and objectively, without any unfairness or prejudice, so that our examination will lend itself to the truth of how blessed we are as Men, to have the gift of Women amongst us.

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Domestic abuse perpetrated by a man on a woman is not an act of courage, but rather one of fear, cowardice and a inner insecurity of a male embryo; a child having never grown up and now existing in an adult male body.

In having no point of reference on proper interaction with a Woman, either by a multitude of circumstances or some other deep seated incident, the first step in the necessary change of an abuser from cowardice to courage, embryo to manhood, predator to protector and from being a divider to one who brings people together is first recognizing he has a problem, and with a subsequent inner and outer confession of pain, with God’s help, we will let the healing begin.