There are a million bits and pieces of information that make up the experiences of a Man’s life. Most are often forgotten in the blink of an eye. Others are much more traumatic, joyful, significant and mournful to the memories held on to for a lifetime.
The balance of equity for most men of integrity regardless of race, religious belief system or background is to practice either by the minute, the hour, the day or even once a week is a time of reflection to be thankful.
It costs nothing and yet yields the biggest personal returns. This is a character trait most promising to know that a poor man is made rich by it, and a rich man is made poor without it.
It grounds you in ways to keep you safe from the arrogance of the batterer mindset. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a Pastor or a Police Officer, the arrogant mindset of the physical batterer and verbal abuser remain the same.
One of thinking he is untouchable by virtue of his vocation and somehow immune from any conviction of conscience because it is both neutralized and patronized by his service to the community.
That somehow his livelihood qualifies him to live a secretive lifestyle free of condemnation in beating his wife/intimate partner. Nothing could be further from the truth for we know the universal law speaks to the heart of the matter: “To whom much is given, much is required.”
So on this Thanksgiving Day, may we as men take the time to truly search our hearts for any level of abusive behavior we have towards our wife/intimate partner, and begin the changing process with the best weapon of all, gratitude…
As Men, we can find no greater responsibility in life than being a parent to our children. Much too often we tend to minimize our impact on their thinking and the subsequent attitudes they carry throughout their lives. We much too often underestimate how much we dynamically impart upon them by our daily speech, behavior, work ethic and religious beliefs to what type of Man or Woman they will eventually grow into.
Of course peer pressure and other societal factors will influence them, but for the most part while they are in the most impressionable stages of life, we as their Father’s play a most significant role in how they will interpret masculinity.
A power relay is a type of conduit that can handle the high power required to directly control an electric motor or other loads is called a contactor. Look at this comparison:
Our children are a type of conduit that handles the high intensity of abusive drama in the home and quite often directly cope with the trauma of these events through emotional scarring and suppression. In most cases, over a period of time this suppression will emerge to rear itself in multiple ways.
In girls, it could ironically manifest in seeking a mate with the same personality characteristics of the man who abused her Mom. In boys, it obviously manifest in being the same type of abusive man he witnessed in his Dad.
The bottom line. We must fully take the time to fully comprehend the masculine power we wield and our responsibility to use it wisely. When used foolishly and abusively, it is sufficient to negatively influence and continue another generation of pain and suffering through our children and our grandchildren.
Are you a Man or a Mannequin? Real men exemplify the substance of integrity abiding inside of them. Fake men are like the mannequins in a store.
Dressed fashionably well to attract others towards them, and yet cold to the touch and hollow on the inside from a lack of moral substance.
Real men clothed themselves with the vest of integrity each and everyday. Fake/abusive men don’t even realize how naked they are before the world regardless to how expensive their clothes are.
Real men court, date, become engaged to and marry integrity for a lifetime. Fake/abusive men have already divorced themselves from the possibility of even knowing who she is.
You can never step up as a Man, if you’re knocking down a Woman. You can never improve yourself as a Man, if you’re verbally abusing a Woman. You can never better yourself as a person and advance inspirational thoughts in others, by destroying the life of a Woman.
Integrity is a lifestyle, not a choice. It is not a demand, but a dialect of human language invisibly spoken in the form of a selfless love and respect for all life, especially the life of your wife/intimate partner. Most men have integrity genetically encoded in their DNA and will absolutely protect and defend all life. They never abuse women and behave as a moral leader in their home, at the workplace and most importantly when no one is watching.
Words can cut like a knife. My Dad always told me that a woman knows she’s not as physically strong as a man, so she uses her words to make all things equal. Interesting theory but when it comes to domestic violence both men and women equally use the tongue like a steel furnished machete.
When wielded with anger and physical intimidation words have the power to cause emotional internal bleeding and severe psychological damage. No man worth his salt as a man of integrity does this. Only woman beaters do this when he’s yelling or using hate-filled whispers to threaten and terrify his wife/intimate partner.
Possibly the worst form of verbal abuse is the silent one. The use of the silent stare which is a code that his victim interprets with a knowing fear of what is to come.
Real men use words to build up and not tear down a woman’s self-esteem. Being accountable for your words is a measure of true integrity and a yardstick of good communication skills. As the good book say’s, “sweet water and bitter water cannot come from the same fountain…” So choose your words wisely and season them with decency.
No matter the time or the circumstances, when you use your words towards your wife/intimate partner for positive direction, devoted encouragement and heart-opening dedication, you’re empowering a woman who will now love you to the ends of the earth.
I believe words were created to be used wisely to build up a person’s life with both healing and dignity; not as daggers to stab and destroy their spirit.
LONGSUFFERING: The etymological history of this word dates back to biblical times and was used most prevalently during the 1600’s in England. Its conventional translation lends itself to the spiritually genetic trait of “Godly Patience”, of which is in and of itself is greater and ultimately more rewarding than human patience.
This genetic trait of GOD calls upon us to raise our level of self-perception equivalent to the pureness of how Almighty GOD sees us. Should we be honestly convicted within ourselves to make our tomorrow’s into what we envision today, this genetic trait of Godly Patience/longsuffering must be intrinsically included in our arsenal of victorious faith.
GENTLENESS: “What considerations we may bear, in rightful efforts be sincere; should armor or might fail the day, let gentleness win, through what we speak, what we talk and what we pray…”
No effort of future success will come to pass without a continuous examination of one’s self. We must be as the surgeon’s hand with skillful precision, and yet as considerate and gradual as the Word of GOD.
This spiritual genetic trait is sublime as it calls not just for the passion of our goal to be evident, but also the “compassion” required in consistently employing love into our labor, and subsequently our labor will demonstrate the commensurate gentleness of the same love we’ve put into it.
Man Of Psalms Publishing Co
Music: “Girl Talk…” from my CD entitled “QUIET STRENGTH..”
LOVE: By what parlance has this word through the ages been used and abused, politicized & proselytized, resigned and reserved by those whose hearts were either sincere and contrite, or scandalous and ill willed. Through JESUS Christ we have the personification of GOD’S love to behaviorally guide us through every challenge life brings before us.
JOY: Is it not written that within this spiritual genetic trait is our strength in, of and through the Lord? Go into your labor of dependable time working with intense deliberation on your passion using this attribute to leaven your bread. Allow this attribute, this wonderful fruit of the spirit to mitigate anxiety and properly dissipate fear from your heart, mind and soul.
PEACE: Through the journey of discovery it is essential for your mindset to remain focused on GOD. This indispensable protocol of spiritual genetics denies the invasion of your mind from distractions and protectively envelopes the soul, making it impervious to the spirit of depression. The scriptures exhort us to practice and believe;
“I will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee”.
Therefore it is imperative to know that as you keep your mind on, in and with GOD during your process of creation, GOD has His Spirit immersed in, of and throughout the process of your creation. Stay Blessed, Peaceful & Anointed. IJPN ~ IN JESUS Precious Name.
The areas of time management are not exempt. As in most things it is the habitual practice of an imbalance that endangers the daily peace of the individual. To find inner balance and its ensuing tangible peace one should affirm the necessity of implementing positive time management within their life’s regimen. It is said, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, yet all play and no work makes him something greatly worse”.
The adage is clear as to the significance of placing priorities of work and leisure rightly divided within one’s life. Yet deeper still is the importance of defining the discipline. There is simply no replacement for the value of work.
I speak not of the regulatory 9 to 5 position most of us pursue and retain in order to pay the bills and keep food on the table. As important as that is, this book’s purpose is to subscribe to the inner architect residing within all Souls who read these words in order to understand the power within your minds eye to both challenge and change your future, for there is no future brighter than the present. We each have a vision of how our lives can, could and should be made better. For all who are living that dreamality (experiencing your dream + living your reality = dreamality) life cannot be a grander place to both work and play.
Yet, for the majority there is no causality for the expression of freedom. Other than a yearning seed of belief through the Word of GOD given every Sunday in church, do the masses experience any true change of their position in life. This is now the time to begin designing the most significant concept of your life and being entrusted to supervise the greatest enterprise you will ever manage. By contrast, the time required to endeavor the power of your imagination is miniscule in comparison to weekly leisurely exploits as trivial as watching television. The need to flip the script has never been greater nor the rewards more relevant to one’s prosperity.
Man Of Psalms Publishing Co
Music: “Forgiveness..” From my CD “MEDITATIONS” Volume II
Significant to every life is the one factor we each both possess and often find as elusive to grasp within our hands as water. The one attribute distinctive to our survival and most often abused and underestimated to the point of regret and desired reversal in any conversation of reflection upon one’s life. The vital element of constancy in bringing the singular point of synchronicity between the past, present and future synonymous to habitual human behavior, and the temporal mechanics of travel.
Besides the gift of life itself and the gift of JESUS himself, it is perhaps the greatest gift given by GOD unto humankind to both understand its brevity of nature and consistently value its purpose. Through passions of invincibility and dreams of immortality, it is a gift most undervalued and taken for granted when we are young. Through the succession of trials and tribulations that define our girth of character, the knowledge of life and it’s brevity make time a gift both treasured and overvalued, despised and feared by us in our winter years.
It is the constant to which all music must immortally sway, the eternal ocean for the longevity of a beautifully painted portrait and the executioner to both a dancers skill and they’re gradual diminishing expertise of the same. Time eventually overwhelms the physical prowess of every athlete and out boxes the sweet science of every pugilist from his or her championship title.
Over the ages what billions of Souls through it’s seas have come, and yet billions more into it’s abyss of eternity will eventually enter. With the emblem of an eternity at stake it is no wonder that as time goes by, the older one gets the more inclined he or she is to invoke wisdom into there daily life.
At least that’s the way it should work. Yet, what if it doesn’t happen? The lessons of time are invariably apt to supersede our cognizance to apply the practical wisdom it teaches. Time waits for no one, and we are quickly running out of it.