Verbal abuse is often more insidious than its physical cousin. Verbal abuse relies upon the victim to begin de-evolving through using psychological warfare.
Destructive words over a period of time can have the deleterious effect as equally deadly as physical blows.
Once a victim of abuse begins to believe the lies and denigrating words heaped upon her over and over again, she can through depression and anxiety become an unwilling co-conspirator in her own destruction.
Last week the POTUS acted as verbal abuser in chief against four prominent and successful female journalists who all happen to be Black Women. His misogyny coupled with subtle to extreme racist overtures coming from the most powerful megaphone in the world only amplify the abuse. Fortunately, all four women which includes Congresswoman Maxine Waters all hail from a strong and invincible state of high self-esteem.
We as men must always use words to elevate, encourage and edify Women. We as men must remember that one wrong word to a vulnerable and impressionable young woman can do irreparable harm and long term damage to her self-esteem.
Lift, Layer & Love. Make a decision to prioritize lifting every woman’s spirits through positive encouragement and intelligent conversation. Our friendships and fellowships with women are built upon layers of time and events.
As men, let us seek to layer each opportunity to provide strong leadership, confident attitudes and respectable interaction with each and every woman we encounter.
The foundation for these efforts must always be grounded in a sincere respect and admiration for the strength and the differences each woman brings to the table. Only love can conquer fear and misunderstanding of each other, and we must daily strive to use words as the weapons of love.