“The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning; but the heart of fools is in the house of laughter – Ecclesiastes 7:4…”
The holiday’s upon us brings a great deal of thought on self and family. For me, that dynamic raises my conscious thoughts on those families privately suffering from the absent physical presence of a daughter, mother, sister, cousin or aunty who was killed as a victim of domestic violence.
As I both feel and pray for them, I also do not forget the male who viciously took a precious life off of this earth. These are males who possess low emotional skills, that makes any attempt of a meaningful relationship with a woman highly problematic and with deadly consequences.
These are males who may possess a high IQ, but never took the time to raise a low EQ. Too often, the reason for this lies in the difference between how boys and girls are being raised, especially when in the same household.
Emotions are a very complex entity and when as a child and teenager (especially for boys) it’s left without guidance, mentorship and quality Q & A evolves from naturally complex to become extremely complicated. Negative emotions will then feed on different sources in society for direction and shape a mind already dealing with raging hormones and testosterone buildup.
In the absence of a positive male role model, the definition of masculinity becomes skewered and fractured in the eyes of that child. To paraphrase Frederick Douglas, “It is easier to raise healthy boys than to spend years repairing broken men…”
I close this writing with the sincerest condolences for the victim families of domestic violence, and the deepest respect for those victims whose lives were prematurely taken, some of them while they were pregnant with the killer’s baby.
We must revolutionize and re-galvanize our fight against this plague by addressing the invisible source of this violence. The insecurities and inability to manage anger is a result of low emotional intelligence coupled with a demonic influence.
Real masculinity is never defined or associated with being physically or sexually violent against a woman. However, it is a requirement of all Real Men who stand up against the males who commit these despicable acts.
Please click the link below and pray for the families of these victims this holiday season. Thank you.
Music: “God’s Peace…” by Russel Blake